Simply put ‘Keep Your Hands to Yourself.’

Let’s talk topics are coming back. I’m here for it, so why not talk about natural hair and how it goes hand in hand with personal space. Some people will never understand that personal space is important not only in private but more so in public as well.

If you can’t keep hands to yourself, please don’t walk up on a naturalista and try to touch his/her hair. That is not the way to go or approach someone. I say this in the kindest way possible without getting upset but the next time someone tries to reach in and touch my hair without permission, it might be a situation.

Funny story is this just happened to me and believe it or not I just said thank you and smiled. I was so caught off guard and the place wasn’t appropriate for a turnup lol. So yes I’m natural. I’ve been natural all my life no perm, relaxer, dye or anything but people touching my hair is getting old. It’s been old honestly. I’ll insert pictures of my hair in this post somewhere. But back to the story/issue at hand.

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Different forms of my natural


To all the people that think touching a perfect stranger’s hair in public and especially without asking at first the answer is NO! Please don’t do it. This is not a petting zoo where you can just reach in and touch my hair. First of all, I don’t know where your hands have been. Secondly, I don’t know you. Lastly, it’s just plain RUDE. You hear me it’s RUDE! Just because someone’s hair looks nice doesn’t mean you can touch it. Some styles take time and for you to just randomly walk up to someone and touch his/her hair is wrong. That’s like me randomly asking to have some of your food, just wrong. We don’t know each other and even if we do you still need to be mindful of my space. You are breaking all kinds of codes.

Honestly people have asked me to touch my hair and I say no because it’s my choice, my hair. People are mean and can be secretly praying for your hair to fall out after they touch it. I know it may sound crazy but people are so crazy these days you just never know.

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Bantu Knots from Start to Finish


Remember just because you see nice hair doesn’t make the person a pet and this is not the petting zoo. There is a difference in asking to touch my hair and just reaching in to touch me without asking, it’s called personal space. Keep that in mind. I also don’t mind talking about the hair products, the method and/or other things that may have helped me in my natural hair journey. Talking about hair might be my second language right behind writing. So with saying that I don’t mind at all talking about hair, the products or even methods to try if something isn’t working out for you in public.

I don’t understand why people think it’s okay to do these things. Have you ever had a bad experience with a stranger wanting to touch your hair in public and then get offended when you start backing up and looking at them crazy? Please share your stories if you have, I would love to hear from you. I could share some crazy comments and stories that I have received, it’s real out here for a naturalista. I should get a t-shirt made that says Yes, It’s Mine Please No Touching!

Thank you again for stopping by and hanging with me today. Please let me know if you have any let’s talk topic ideas. You can email me at and I will definitely check those out.

Until next time!

Shine bright and don’t forget to Find Your Light!



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