Simply put ‘Keep Your Hands to Yourself.’
Let’s talk topics are coming back. I’m here for it, so why not talk about natural hair and how it goes hand in hand with personal space. Some people will never understand that personal space is important not only in private but more so in public as well.
If you can’t keep hands to yourself, please don’t walk up on a naturalista and try to touch his/her hair. That is not the way to go or approach someone. I say this in the kindest way possible without getting upset but the next time someone tries to reach in and touch my hair without permission, it might be a situation.
Funny story is this just happened to me and believe it or not I just said thank you and smiled. I was so caught off guard and the place wasn’t appropriate for a turnup lol. So yes I’m natural. I’ve been natural all my life no perm, relaxer, dye or anything but people touching my hair is getting old. It’s been old honestly. I’ll insert pictures of my hair in this post somewhere. But back to the story/issue at hand.
To all the people that think touching a perfect stranger’s hair in public and especially without asking at first the answer is NO! Please don’t do it. This is not a petting zoo where you can just reach in and touch my hair. First of all, I don’t know where your hands have been. Secondly, I don’t know you. Lastly, it’s just plain RUDE. You hear me it’s RUDE! Just because someone’s hair looks nice doesn’t mean you can touch it. Some styles take time and for you to just randomly walk up to someone and touch his/her hair is wrong. That’s like me randomly asking to have some of your food, just wrong. We don’t know each other and even if we do you still need to be mindful of my space. You are breaking all kinds of codes.
Honestly people have asked me to touch my hair and I say no because it’s my choice, my hair. People are mean and can be secretly praying for your hair to fall out after they touch it. I know it may sound crazy but people are so crazy these days you just never know.
Remember just because you see nice hair doesn’t make the person a pet and this is not the petting zoo. There is a difference in asking to touch my hair and just reaching in to touch me without asking, it’s called personal space. Keep that in mind. I also don’t mind talking about the hair products, the method and/or other things that may have helped me in my natural hair journey. Talking about hair might be my second language right behind writing. So with saying that I don’t mind at all talking about hair, the products or even methods to try if something isn’t working out for you in public.
I don’t understand why people think it’s okay to do these things. Have you ever had a bad experience with a stranger wanting to touch your hair in public and then get offended when you start backing up and looking at them crazy? Please share your stories if you have, I would love to hear from you. I could share some crazy comments and stories that I have received, it’s real out here for a naturalista. I should get a t-shirt made that says Yes, It’s Mine Please No Touching!
Thank you again for stopping by and hanging with me today. Please let me know if you have any let’s talk topic ideas. You can email me at kjoywrites@gmail.com and I will definitely check those out.
Until next time!
Shine bright and don’t forget to Find Your Light!
Xoxo,
Kjoywrites
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oooh yea no touching paaaliiizzzzzz!!! am also natural though not that long hair and everyone be like “hey you got good hair, hey is this chemical?” Like wtf!!!
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Yes that mess is so rude. That statement about it being chemical is another post. People have no manners.
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I honestly haven’t ever had anyone just walk up to me and touch my hair and I feel horrible for anyone who has had someone in their space like that (I mean, the nerve of people, right?!). I have at least had people request to touch my hair, and I have refused because I don’t believe in random hands in my head. I take on this same philosophy with my hair stylist. for the 3 years I was natural I had only 1 person put my hair in protective styles (braids). I had 1 natural hair stylist and she was the only one to touch my hair for a long time. When I grew my locs, I stepped away from the salon after discovering that most of the maintenance of my locs I can do myself, for free, lol. When I did get my locs styled, it was the same stylist who did my natural hair. I’m very particular and superstitious when it comes to my hair and who has access to it, so I completely understand where you’re coming from with this post!
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People have no chill at all or respect for personal space. I do my own hair for the most part and I don’t trust everybody on my head and that’s to be understood for everybody. Some people just get bold and will give you the side eye if you decide to back up or say no. Thank you for sharing.
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Reblogged this on Write, Live and Love and commented:
Public Service Announcement: This applies to locs too. Please don’t walk up to me and think it’s ok to just reach out and touch. It’ll be a #Situation. LOL
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You think touch someone’s hair is bad, What about being bald and having random people wanting to touch your head! No watermelon here…not that I’m talking from experience, mind you. Personally, the only person I have had the desire to reach out and touch their hair was my wife, and she does not mind!
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Really great read. I grew up in a school where it was so common to just touch people’s hair, however, I was one of the few who made it known to please don’t touch my hair. I don’t know where your hands have been lol. It’s sad that we have to make that statement, however, its reality and just by you creating this post is helping others to realize what’s not ok.
BTW: You have gorgeous hair! 🙂
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